Have you ever met someone who blames others, saying things like ‘it is my husband’s fault that I am not rich’, and makes excuses such as ‘we would have a better house if you hadn’t done…’ and denies any involvement in having had a marriage break up despite the fact that it takes two to tango?
I was reading yesterday that blame; excuses and denial are the opposite of ownership, responsibility and accountability.
So if you have a colleague, a child or a spouse who is always blaming others, making excuses or denying involvement or responsibility, this is a clear indication that they are not prepared to own their own problems or issues, won’t be held accountable and are basically not responsible.
What causes this behaviour and how should we deal with it in others particularly if the people doing it won?t admit it to themselves because they are blameless and not responsible?